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Sunday, February 8, 2009

Integrating Pain

As I have talked with different people about pain and how it effects them, I have come to realize how important it is to integrate it into our memories and life experiences.  For me, this blog has been a way of doing this.  As I have reflected on my labor expereinces, I have begun to make the pain I felt a part of who I am.  

This didn't really happen while I was in labor.   The pain of labor didn't hold much meaning for me until I reflected back on it afterwards and asked myself why I even choose to give birth the way I did.  It was while I was doing this that the memory of the pain became sweet and filled with joy rather than fear.  

For me I have done this with my writing, but I have seen it used very successfully with art.  I really feel like this would be useful for those who have especially tramatic experiences or memories filled with fear.  Somehow, using words and art to understand the pain I felt allows me to not only find meaning in it, but accept it as a part of me.  In all honosty, pain is not what I fear most in pregnancy...not that I don't have fears, but the pain was become sweet to me somehow....

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Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?

  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.