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Thursday, March 12, 2009


My sister in law has recently been having a more difficult pregnancy due to placenta previa, and it got me thinking about not so normal births-ones where we have problems, with mom or baby. Albeit 90% of the time, there is no problem, but that 10% can sure be hard to wade through much less think about what sort of meaning there can be in it.

As I was thinking about this, though, I was impressed by the amount of support that is needed for a mom like this. You have the medical community, of course, but you also have family, friends, spouse, and many others that help to cradle that mom who is experiencing difficulties. In a sense, that mom is surrounded by a nest of those around her to help her cope and overcome.

There is something different to gain in an experience like has more to do with community and support for a new mom. While they can be difficult at times, it is nice to see these connections happen. And I'm not sure they would have otherwise.

1 comment:

Cherylyn said...

Thank you for posting this. I think it's really important to notice the positive impact that things have on people. Many times when we go through hard things we want to feel sorry for ourselves or ask why, and it helps to remember that things happen not just "to" us, but that impact us personally as well as everyone around us. It's amazing and beautiful to see how people come together in tough times. Thank you again :)

Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?

  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.