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Monday, April 20, 2009

Birth preparation

I have finally decided, after all my blogging, what I feel birth preparation should entail.  There are three aspects that I feel really need to be included..the spirtual, the emotional, and the physical.  The physical part is so important to understand, but I feel like so often that is it is the only thing we learn.  We think so much about what happens to us physically (i.e. the pain, the dilation, how that baby actually gets here, safety of both mom and baby), that we forget about the other two equally important factors.  And I feel it's sad that so often these other elements are missing from our modern births.  I really think this has more to do with how we view birth rather than what kind of birth we actually have.

I also feel like it is important to recoginize this time as a time of transition and transformation.  Not only of a mother, but of a family unit.  I remember after I had my third child, they handed him to me while the cord was still attatched.  I was a little awed at that, thinking that that was what was connecting me to him.  Then it was cut, and I felt myself having to acknowledge that seperation.  I think this was a time when I felt that transformation more keenly than at any other time.  It serves as a reminder to me of our connections to our children and the constantly changing nature that they are. 

1 comment:

Cherylyn said...

I think you've made an excellent point. I agree that we should all be prepared emotionally and mentally for childbirth. I learned through my natural births how important a role the mind and spirit play in dealing with physical challenges, and how powerful they can be, and better than any medication. Thank you for sharing this perspective!

Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?

  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.