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Saturday, March 6, 2010

It's what they want to do

Dr. Kathleen Harner, an obstetrician in Tuba City, said: “Midwives are better at being there for labor than doctors are. Midwives are trained for it. It’s what they want to do.”

I thought this was an interesting quote and just something to think about when choosing providers. Some medical professionals do not want to be there for labor. And that's ok. You may not need or want them there either, but if you do, then you should make sure that you choose someone who does want to be there. Many people I know and have worked with have a love for child bearing women and love to be there for them. There are some medical professionals who see it as purely a medical event, and that's how they will treat you. Again, just be sure you find someone who views it the same way you do.

Now, for my lesson in this. How often do I want to be there? Not just for labor, but for other people in my life. How often do I wake up each morning and think, "I really am excited for today. I want to be here". Sometimes our own mind set can make all the difference for the people around us and for ourselves. And, I think we have the ability to choose that mind set. So, I'm going to bed tonight and I'm going to try and wake up tomarrow and think "I want to be here today, for me, for my husband, and for my kids. Because they are the greatest thing that could ever happen to me". Wish me luck!

1 comment:

Handsfullmom said...

I love this thought -- how are things different when we want to be there versus feeling like we have to do it? Thanks for your insight.

Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?

  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.