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Tuesday, June 22, 2010

The many faces of birth

I find it so interesting to see how many different ways women view birth. For some, it's just a means to an end. The process is completely irrelevant. For others, giving birth is a part of having a child and means as much to them as anything. There was one couple I took care of that loved all the iv's, the monitors, the technology. For them, this is what birth should be like, and to do it any other was was appaling to them. For another young mother, birth was a beautiful process and should not be intruded on by technology unless needed.

All these prospectives have brought such a richness to my work. But I always have to remind myself that it's ok if someone thinks something different than me. Sometimes it has been a struggle, but it's been a struggle that I've appreciated as it has helped me to learn to view life from different perspectives. That's something I have always valued.

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Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?

  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.