I just wanted to add a quick idea of what people grieve for after a birth before we talk about the actual stages of grief. When women first are pregnant, a plan or idea of how they expect the birth to go begins to develop. If things don't go as expected, or if a woman feels like her control has been taken away, there is often some degree of loss. This can happen even though the birth looked fairly "normal" from the outside.
Things that woman may grief for: loss of their own sense of control, the experience wasn't what they expected, wishing that they had done something different, wishing they had handled the pain differently, more interventions than they had originally intended, less interventions than they had originally intended, the feeling that they could have done something different to make it better, the feeling that the medical professionals should have done something different. The list could go on and on.
My point in mentioning this is to show that women can grief for so many things, and that it is OK. When something does not go as planned, or we have some control stripped from us, it is natural to grief what we have lost.
Things that woman may grief for: loss of their own sense of control, the experience wasn't what they expected, wishing that they had done something different, wishing they had handled the pain differently, more interventions than they had originally intended, less interventions than they had originally intended, the feeling that they could have done something different to make it better, the feeling that the medical professionals should have done something different. The list could go on and on.
My point in mentioning this is to show that women can grief for so many things, and that it is OK. When something does not go as planned, or we have some control stripped from us, it is natural to grief what we have lost.
No comments:
Post a Comment