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Thursday, August 21, 2008

The blessings of surrendering fear to love

This is just a quick blip I got from a lady who has done some home births and I loved how this fit in the topic of love.

"the true victory in labor and delivery is not the overcoming of pain and fatigue, but the realizations that come when we surrender our will to something greater, for the love of our children, and are infinitely blessed with feelings of peace, safety, and love."*

This can be a victory and it is not easy. It is a sense of surrendering to something greater than yourself. In all aspects of life this can be the case. As a mother I know I have felt the need to do this many times as I sense frustration set in. There are times when I say I can't do this, but you have to let it go and turn it over to something greater than yourself. For me that is a God that I have faith in, but for those who aren't religious, it can be something else. I think having an idea of the goodness and greatness of the cause of being a mother is helpful in this respect. If you believe that what you are doing as a mother is important than when it is hard surrender yourself to that cause. Fear can be replaced with peace, safety and love.

Now, I realize that fear is also foraged from the thought of losing your child and for the safety of yourself. I am thinking about this and hope to touch on this in the next blog. Until then I still feel like filling yourself with love is one of the most important things you can do in birth and in motherhood.

*quote is from Rachel Logan

2 comments:

Nancy said...

Rachel, this was beautifully stated. But you know my feelings on home birth already!

Nancy said...
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Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?


  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.