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Monday, January 18, 2010

Foot massage and gratitude

I was really tired the other night and my dear husband came and gave me a foot massage. It reminded me of all the massages I was given while in labor. He spent a lot of time pushing on my back and would comment afterwards how is hands hurt. In all reality, I'm pretty sure I was working much harder, but once I became pregnant, there was nothing I could do about it. My husband, on the other hand, could at any point in time just left me. He could have just sat down on the chair while I labored. He could have gotten offended at how curt I was with him. Or when I told him not to touch me, he could have just walked away.

So, while I did a good majority of the hard work in my labors:), I am grateful my husband did not walk away. But stayed with me, held my hand, rubbed my back, withstood my sharp tones. I almost think that this is a good example of how I should be a mother.....

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Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?


  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.