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Monday, January 18, 2010

The fear/pain/anger of tramatic birth experiences and how to overcome?

This is a site with some brutally honest, painful expressions of what one woman felt like after her c-section. It brought tears to my eyes to think that she felt so much pain about what happened to her. I also know that not all c-sections cause this kind of pain, but I think we need to understand how some women have felt about what happens to them.

I think we need to understand the pain, but what I would really like to show, is peaceful healing pictures also. So, I'm asking for some...How have you healed from traumatic birth experiences, what has allowed peace to come back into your lives? How have you found love instead of fear and hate? How have you overcome the feelings of fear, loss, and anger? While I appreciate this artists expression of the pain she felt, I would also like to show expressions of finding forgiveness and love afterwards. So, to anyone who would like to, please share.

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Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?

  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.