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Tuesday, May 4, 2010

The ability to cope with pain

I wanted to share this as I was just discussing with a friend how I felt like with each of my labors, my ability to cope with contractions got better and better. I think learning to deal with pain has been one of the lessons I value from my labors. Even as my labors progressed, I found my ability to cope, improve.

I'm not sure if most people would value the ability to cope with pain. Most of the time we would just like to avoid it, but being able to cope with it is helpful. Then if we can go beyond just coping, and reach the point were pain can teach us....that's when we become better than who we were previously.

1 comment:

Cherylyn said...

I agree completely. I've definitely gained a higher pain tolerance and better coping techniques with each subsequent birth. I also value each experience and what I've learned from it.

Birth is a Journey: Does it have to be life changing?

  • One woman might have to climb on an overfilled boat, risking her life and nearly dying as she escapes over the ocean to come to this land. This experience could certainly be life altering. It may very well color the rest of her life, positively or negatively. (I overcame this amazing struggle and here I am triumphant! OR Holy crap, that was SO hard I don’t know if I can go on! By the way, neither response is “right”. No one would judge the woman with the 2nd response.)
  • One woman may buy an airplane ticket, sit on a comfortable 747 and fly to America with a nice smooth flight and landing. She is happy to be in America. Those welcoming her are glad she is here safe and sound. She may only travel by plane 2-4 times in her life, so it is pretty memorable. But the journey itself probably wouldn’t be life changing; it would simply be a journey.
  • One woman may learn to fly an ultra-light plane to lead a flock of geese into America teaching them to migrate. This experience could certainly be empowering and life altering.